Health and morality experts have expressed deep concern over a disturbing trend involving men, particularly married ones, who slump and die during sexual intercourse—often with partners who are not their wives, in hotels across Nigeria.
The latest incident involves a Kogi State University lecturer, Dr. Olabode Abimbola Ibikunle, who reportedly died shortly after checking into a hotel with a woman identified as Miss Helen Raymond.
This growing phenomenon, dubbed “from pleasure to grave” by some observers, has prompted widespread concern among health professionals, psychologists, academics, and moral advocates, who cite both medical and moral lapses as contributing factors.
Clinical Psychologist and Mental Health Therapist, Mcfredericks Akor Edache, attributed many of these cases to the abuse of sex enhancement drugs.
According to him, many men, in a bid to impress their partners—particularly those who are not their spouses—resort to artificial stimulants that dangerously alter the body’s natural sexual response cycle.
“These substances often induce prolonged erection and delayed ejaculation, which can lead to reduced blood flow to vital organs. This imbalance compromises respiration and can result in cardiac arrest or death,” Edache explained.
He further cautioned that men should not feel pressured to overperform sexually, especially by partners who may mock them as “one-minute men.” He stressed that real intimacy is better achieved through adequate foreplay and emotional connection, rather than performance-enhancing drugs.
“Most men don’t realize that the first round of sex is often the most pleasurable. Subsequent rounds are driven more by fantasy than by genuine passion, and pushing the body beyond its limit for the sake of ego or impression can be deadly,” he added.
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A lecturer from Kwara State, Hassan Alowonle, echoed similar sentiments, stating that while sex is natural and essential, it must be approached with caution—especially for individuals with underlying health issues such as heart disease.
He emphasized the importance of medical screening for couples prior to sexual engagement or marriage.
“Sex is an exertive activity, just like any physical exercise. For individuals with compromised heart health or high blood pressure, it can be fatal. Unfortunately, many of these deaths are misattributed to supernatural causes rather than biological realities,” Alowonle noted.
He also lamented the pressure created by popular culture and advertising, where men are often encouraged to use aphrodisiacs and sex-enhancing pills to deliver ‘unimaginable pleasure,’ sometimes at the expense of their health.
“Excitement and anticipation—especially when meeting a new partner—can cause psychological and physiological overstimulation. The exertion that follows often leads to cardiac complications, especially when fueled by enhancement drugs,” he warned.
Supporting this view, Divine Mike Akor, a chemist and public affairs analyst, linked the increase in such tragic events to infidelity, loss of sexual morality, and lack of discipline among men.
“In almost all these reported cases, the men were not with their wives. They often used substances to impress much younger, unknown women. It’s a dangerous mix of infidelity, poor decision-making, and overexertion,” Akor stated.
He pointed out that many of the women involved in such encounters are complete strangers, whose medical or spiritual background is unknown.
“It’s not just about health anymore; there’s a metaphysical risk. What if these women are diabolical or use charms? You can’t rule out the spiritual angle either,” he added.
Akor stressed the need for a moral reset, calling on men to embrace contentment and fidelity in their marriages. He warned against reckless sexual behaviors driven by fantasy, ego, or peer pressure and urged for awareness about the dangers of performance-enhancing drugs.
“The truth is, our bodies change with age. The ability to satisfy young and sexually active partners diminishes with time. Instead of accepting this reality, some men try to keep up with harmful shortcuts—and they pay with their lives,” he concluded.