7-yr-old marriage dissolved because wife’s not hot as girlfriends

An Igando Customary Court in Lagos on Tuesday dissolved the marriage of a woman who claimed that her husband regarded her as performing less in bed than his girlfriends.

The Court President, Mr. Adeniyi Koledoye, held that although the respondent, Mr. Tosin Owolabi, wanted the marriage sustained, his wife, Adenike, insisted on divorce.

He said that the court lacked the power to force a willing husband on an unwilling wife.

“It is crystal that the marriage between the couple has broken down irretrievably, and there is nothing the court can do to sustain it,’’ Koledoye said.

The News Agency of Nigeria reports that Adenike had sought divorce, saying that, Tosin, her husband of seven years, regularly told her that she was not good in bed.

She said that Tosin, 36, was adulterous, always complaining “You’re not hot in bed.”

“I know he was using that as an excuse for his infidelity,” the mother-of-two said.

“I cannot have access to his phone because he coded it so that I will not know about his illicit affairs with other women,” she told the court.

She also accused Tosin, a teacher, of battering her.

“He beats me even during pregnancies which always landed me in hospital,” she said.

The petitioner added that Tosin was jealous. “He is always accusing me of dating any man he sees me with,’’ Adenike said; adding that Tosin threatened to kill her and might carry out the threat.

Responding, Tosin admitted beating Adenike but blamed it on his temperament. He also accused Adenike of infidelity.

The court granted the custody of the two children of the marriage to Adenike, and ordered Tosin to pay N5,000 monthly to her for each of the children’s feeding.

It also ordered that Tosin should be responsible for the children’s education.